C’s in Relationship


I remember the first time I received a “C.” I was a freshman in college and when I opened the envelope there it was. I lived in the “Land of Not Enough” (L.O.N.E.) then and for me “C’s” meant average. And average equaled failure. Failure was never accepted in the Land of Not Enough. .

“You are not enough… you’ll never be enough,” were the words that invaded every aspect of my life. From grades to housekeeping, cooking to playing games I just never measured up. When it came to my relationship with God, I was definitely never, ever enough.

I read all the books, studied how to pray and made a spiritual to-do list I could check off each day. My formula for getting closer to God was rock solid. Surely I would earn the A+ I so desperately desired from Him. At the end of the day, when the last box was checked, I was still a LONEr, someone who lived in the Land of Not Enough.

As I moved out of the Land, God began to reveal to me average isn’t failure and “C’s” might be the best grade I could ever make.

Today, you’ll find me striving for three “C’s” I consider foundational for living enough.


Conversation is the building block for all relationships. Scripture teaches us to pray without ceasing.

Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.–1 Thessalonians 5:16-18


Merriam-Webster’s defines curiosity as “a desire to know.” Asking questions, digging for answers, and waiting for revelation build our relationship with God on many levels.

Jesus said,

Ask, and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.–Matthew 7:7-8

Jesus’ teaching is not a one and done mentality. It is continuous. The Amplified version says, “Ask and keep on asking… seek and keep on seeking… knock and keep on knocking.”

Asking questions, wrestling with God’s word is not a sign of weakness or doubt. It takes guts, a certain boldness to stand before the heavenly Father and ask hard questions. I don’t always get the answers I want, but as I ask, seek, knock I grow in my love for Him and others.


In the Land of Not Enough you are on your own. No authentic community can exist in a place where independence is an idol worthy of worship.

God is not, nor has He ever been, a loner. His very nature and existence is in community: Father, Son, and Spirit. And we are made to commune with others (Genesis 1:26).

Day after day they met in the temple [area] continuing with one mind, and breaking bread in various private homes. They were eating their meals together with joy and generous hearts.–Acts 2:26 AMP

Corporate worship, group bible studies, and holy friendships challenge me to grow exponentially beyond anything I can accomplish on my own.

Three “C’s” I follow hard after. Three areas I desire to live by daily.

Conversation (Prayer)
Curiosity (Study)
Community (Fellowship)

Words that describe how a girl who lived in the Land of Not Enough gave up striving to be enough and found average was more than enough for Him.